Sunday, June 29, 2008

Back to the Business World.......


At 7:30 am Monday....I'm going to walk into a conference room....set my girlie briefcase down.....smile at the management team....and rejoin the business world...full time.

Talk about life changes.....lol.

I decided in May to return to work in the real world.

My daughter is getting serious about grad school....and the youngest of the family plans to be an engineer which takes an additional year of college.....in other words.....cah ching cah ching......more of these babies>>>>>$$$$$........ have to find their way into our checking account.

In true Gina-style.....I planned to vacation in New York....plus take a few extra jaunts.....before my wings got clipped...... but a job I had always been interested in....suddenly became available.....and the corporate folks interviewed me by phone during my Long Island vacation.

I wish I could have taped my interviews....you could actually hear my brain groan......as it tried to leave lah-lah-beach mode and turn on to business mode. During the first interview...sand fell from my hair onto the phone ( I wondered if my voice quality sounded "scratchy").....and the maids fired up a dozen vacuum cleaners in the hotel hallway outside my room during the second interview.

I'm not sure I believe in "signs" or "omens"....but I found out the job was mine....right after I saw a rainbow.....on the last day of my vacation on Long Island....and since rainbows are arched...and resemble doorways....I felt very positive and confident about the change....even though it will be a ton of work.

Tonight....I've done girlie physical maintenance.... set my clothes out.....and packed my business bag.

Although I am ready in one sense.....I feel ......naked.....I am painfully aware my skills....my life experiences....my judgement.....my flaws.... me.....will sit down at the table tomorrow, receive a set a goals......and then all of me.....all these parts...congruent and incongruent....good and bad.....will swirl and dance and strive.....to accomplish them.....and not just accomplish them....but succeed in a way which credits what I know, who I am.......and what I believe has to be done.

Geez......better put an extra can of Starbucks espresso in the bag....this could be quite an adventure.
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Saturday, June 28, 2008

The Way Home.......

We left Iowa State with a few gray clouds overhead.



15 minutes later I glanced into the rear view mirror because of a strange dark reflection. My jaw dropped. A huge monster storm was on our tail .... chewing up everything in its path.
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It was too big....too intense to ride out in a car on the open interstate. We ducked inside a restaurant....and waited out 70mph winds. I asked the hostess if they had a basement in case this turned into a tornado.
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"No....but we have a big cooler we can all fit in....if the sirens begin."
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I've never waited out a twister in the cooler......fortunately.....it was not my day to hug milk cartons.
I Heavy rains pelted us for hours.


Finally, we could actually see the edge of the front and sunshine beyond.
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We exited out from underneath the weather front into sunshine.....but it was scary to look back.

Ah ....the plains......


....... and more plains


I rode shot gun....and tried to amuse myself.


My knees were the most interesting to look at for miles.

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Trees along the side of the road .....change the landscape.

Tough granite hills mark the boundary where the fertile topsoil of the plains end .....and the southern hills and woodlands begin.

Small wooded mountains.....in a blue haze.....welcome us home.

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Back at the wheel for the next 3 to 4 hours. Thank god....he who drives controls the music....my nerves are a bit shot from my son's tunes.
Low wooded hills.... we are almost home.

We hit the big river at sunset.....the tiny blip in the distant.....the last granite mountain in this area.


Turning into our street....I have the strange sensation I've been gone for hours....not days.


Mon Casa..........home...........in the fading light.....

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Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Oh....Iowa....

It's close to 11pm.....and I'm still watching the lightening through the window....a summer storm in the Midwest is an amazing show.

It was a good day.....spent most of it walking around this huge bucolic campus.....with 100 year old trees.....small streams and a classic pond with fat swans....nestled next to old classic brick buildings as well as new contemporary classrooms.

Although Iowa State is a huge school it's so different from Ohio State where I dropped my daughter off 4 years ago.....Iowa State is situated in the cornfields and when we arrived last night....I could smell the sweet scent of cut grass and alfalfa in the air.....in contrast....Ohio State was a very urban campus with much more blight and the problems of big city knocking at the door.

My son and I were good troopers...started the day early....sat in this classroom then this lecture hall....filled out this form......and that form.....and were so efficient ....after he meets with his advisor in the morning....we are cleared to go.....and we will head back home.

He seems excited and happy to start life here....we glimpsed his future dorm room.....we decided a bike is a better idea than a car....and several cute blond Midwestern girls.....gave him the eye (of course I noticed).

And I did my job as mom tonight...shooing him to sleep in the dorm....texting him an encouraging message to join in the bowling and basketball games for orientees this evening.

I am proud to say I only texted one followup.....message.

"R u okay?"

"Yeah."

I wondered how many times I was going to text that message from now on.

I guess.....as long as a Yeah....comes back.....it's a thumb's up.

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Grand Lecture Halls....

Seats are comfy....double screens....I'm almost ready to take Chemistry over again (NOt!)

Campus View

Student Union.....

I'm perched somewhere on the top floor in a funky little room above the main hall of the student union....it's almost deserted....a bit spooky...but in a few months.....45,000 kids will be streaming through here.

Swans are in......

Gee from the North Shore of Long Island.....to the middle of Iowa.....you can't have your idyllic setting without a couple of fat swans floating by.

Here's Jim......

Not the best of pictures....but here's Jim's truck....he's holding a trophy....he won best trucker of the year.......I rode his coat tails on the freeway for a couple hours.

Me and Jim....playing truck and car tag....and headed north.....I was sad to finally pass him.....wish he put his phone number on the rig.....I would have been brave and called him......cause someone has to tell Jim...mullets ...are very very over.

Monday, June 23, 2008

Hitting the Cornfields......

Holy Shit....I'm la la la-ing......didn't finish unpacking from New York.... and I'm leaving at 7am for the cornfields of Iowa in a few short hours.

Taking my son to college orientation in Ames......which thankfully....is not under water.

I can tell he's excited......yesterday his roommate....a guy from South Dakota....sent him an email....today he got his dorm assignment (he's in an old all male building)......when we arrive......they'll do a counseling and orientation sessions and set up his classes.....plus we'll complete the other necessities to start life up there in August.

He sleeps in the dorm while we're there....I choose to sleep in some student union accomodations they're setting up for the parents....hell....I don't need much.....and I'd rather be on campus so I can walk around when I'm not scheduled for my parent sessions.

The campus is huge....one of those land grant colleges....where they gave a hunk of land to the state and said ...build ye a university....which they did.


You know....I always thought that by the time we reached the third child... all these life changes and milestones would get easier.....the letting go....the find your own life and happiness thing.....

but I swear my heart feels just as constricted tonight as when I first took my daughter to Ohio....it does not get easier....in fact....I think it gets harder....because you know....you really know.....they aren't yours anymore....and this is what all your work amounts to.....the gift to find their own way.

I think he'll fit well up in Iowa....he's got a Midwest corn boy attitude.....solid.....grounded.....calm....positive.....I think this university is a good fit for him. I worry about the challenges he'll face as a young adult up there....but....you just have to let go and hope he makes good decisions....or at least figues out when he's made bad ones.

Now......best find those cans of Starbuck double espressos I hid....and grab some CD;s...cause I know how driving trips go with teens......I get behind the wheel in the morning....and he'll fluff his pillow up and sleep till noon.
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Friday, June 20, 2008

The End........

I wondered how to tie up this trip.....should I go back to the beach? should I walk along the Sound?.....should I have a great breakfast at one of those cozy Greek -owned diners early Saturday morning.

But last night....when I saw the rainbow that appeared from a sudden intense thunderstorm which had swept into the North Shore of Long Island .....I smiled and knew nature had provided me the final gift for my great vacation ....where I had a chance to feel the electricity of New York City again...where I experienced the beauty of rocky and sandy shores and perfect waves.... where I played tour guide for my family and showed them the things I loved and discovered in this part of the country.

I felt so through and through soul-deep grateful as I looked at that rainbow....to the dominoes in my life which had first brought me to the City then Long Island.....that I said a prayer of thanks to God, or the gods, or to whatever is the source of that spark.... ..which causes a cascade of events in your life.....and brings you to a certain point...a certain peak.....

and from this peak....you have the extreme privilege of turning around.....and actually seeing how these factors...these people....these events...how they all blended together.....to place you right here.... at this very moment in time.

Sometimes you don't know how you got to a certain point in your life......but sometimes you do......and looking at that process ....being cognizant of it ....can fill you with wonder.

I am not sure I discovered a pot of gold on Long Island....but I discovered something....and that something.... moved me forward....enlightened me....and brought immense joy and texture into my life.......which I have been able to share with the people I love.

Gratitude.. is the perfect ending.

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Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Girls Just Want to Have Fun.........

"How does this look?"

"How does this look?"

"That's a bit tight."

"That's too short ."

Once we got rid of the menfolks....it was time for the girls (my daughter and I) to have fun.

We hit Park Avenue......we dreamed.....we looked at the real designer stuff....and then checked out the knock offs sold by guys out of cardboard boxes.

My daughter wanted to hit the big H&M store as soon the doors opened...it's a Swedish chain....and specializes in cheap chic. I've never been in this store....but it seems all college girls know the merchandise by heart.

We brought armloads of stuff into the dressing room....and knocked on each others dressing room doors for advice. To my surprise.....we both came out with two big bags of fun stuff...every thing from earrings....to underwear.

Next we hit Long Island....the car rental place gave us a fire engine red car with a spoiler....and a sun roof....I didn't even ask for it....I guess they just knew who needed that car the moment we walked in.

But all the new clothes and our hot car....made us painfully aware our nails looked like shit.....so we googled nail salons close to hotel....Suzi's? Marie's?.....Adventure Nail?......We choose Shalom Nails....because we imagined it was owned by exacting Jewish women....which is a comforting thought when you're far from home and don't know whom to trust......it was, however, owned by an Asian woman.....who was ...well...as tough as nails. She was in Control...with a capital C....and in no time we were out the door....looking more like ladies.

Dinner was next on the agenda....and we ate in a wonderful Italian restaurant in Huntington.....we split a full bottle of wine....which of course necessitated..... we go out to a movie...(conveniently located 1/2 block away) since I was a bit too impaired to drive.

We picked the Adam Sandler movie, Zohan.... it's really not that great of a movie....I mean he mumbles....there are about 15 plot lines.....and its cheesy outrageous.....but with a bottle of Chianti and the help of the woman who sat behind us.....we roared through the whole thing.

Let me explain ...the woman who sat behind us was....in her thirties...dark hair .....glasses...plain-looking... and had this unusual laugh.....she bellowed .....HA HA HA .

It wasn't fake.....I think she was just one of those belly laughers ....who make you laugh because their laugh is so funny and contagious....when Sandler summersualted , or profiled his bulging stuffed crotch, or would make a small joke ......the woman broke out into this HA HA HA HA HA laugh....that doubled us over with laughter.

Walking back to the car.....my daughter said....."Was she for real?"....and just the thought of her HA HA HA 's.....made us laugh so hard again....we looked like drunks walking down the street towards the car.

For our final girl day.....I let Cris pick what she wanted to do....she is a natural beach baby....so we hit Robert Moses Beach....the water was a beautiful blue thanks to the cloud cover and the beach had just a few folks on it.

I still love the sound of the waves at this beach.......they are less intense than Montauk.....and more vigorous than the Sound.....they are perfect.

We sat and walked....and just talked on the beach......until it was time for her plane to depart. I was so sad to hug her and wave good bye.

"Wait....I forgot to give you something Mom"

She pulled out her wallet and handed me.....her business card. My daughter, my first born......is living her own life....she has a business card.

I wept all the way back to the hotel.

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Versace. Park Avenue.

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Park Avenue Bling Bling....Cartier

Sunday, June 15, 2008

The extraordinary adventure continues in NYC.....

I took turns laughing hard and screaming.

"This is crazy you guys....crazy"

My kids laughed at me.

I clutched at my neck trying to keep the hood of the ultra-thin plastic poncho on my head.

I would laugh when my eyes were shut and scream when they were open.

I'm scared of heights....I get ...the vertigo...the world is spinning.....and you're gonna fall feeling....when I'm someplace high up....especially if I don't have a sense I'm enclosed and on something firm.

Hence....99% of roller coasters are a big no-no (only the Disneyland ones which are in a mountain or inside something are okay) and now add to my list of big NO-No's are double decker tourist buses.....crossing ultra high bridges out of NYC.

Yep....I was sitting next to the rail on top of one of those open air double decker tourist buses.....crossing the Manhattan Bridge into Brooklyn....when I opened my eyes ...all that I could see were the choppy greenish waves of the bay below me.

Oh....and one more thing.....we were crossing this bridge in the middle of a violent thunderstorm....with strong winds whipping at us.....sheets of rain ...tearing at the ponchos ....and lightening .....white and zig zaggy and dangerously close by.

The kids ...thought the whole scenario was extremely cool and funny....the dangerous weather ..the double decker bus....and their mom....in mortal fear.

We hit Brooklyn.....and it stopped raining.....but within ten minutes or so....started again.....the clouds.... dark gray and low and ominous. Something in the back of my head kept saying.......are these tour bus operators crazy???? There are like 20 of us on top of this bus.....aren't they worried we are going to get struck by lightening?

Apparently not ...cause they were the ones who handed out these flimsy little ponchos.....to keep us on the tour......a two hour tour of NYC.

We arrived in NYC on Saturday after dropping my hub off at the airport. The four of us piled into a cab with enough baggage to look like we were heading off to Europe.....and we had the traditional death defying ride into Midtown Manhattan...with a cab driver who would suddenly lift both hands off of his steering wheel while driving.....a move which frightened me....and made the kids nervous too.

While the luggage was being unloaded out of the taxi....one of the kids spotted those touristy double decker buses go by.....and suggested we do a tour....so we could see good portion of the city in a small amount of time.

We bought tickets...the sky turned a grey..... but.....we were too excited ......to worry about the weather.....until we boarded the double decker bus.......we made it through Times Square and were headed toward the Soho District....when it started to rain.... the skies opened up with a thunderous crack of lightening....and buckets of cold rain pelted us.

The tour bus folks handed out ponchos.....which....(like total tourist boobs) we put on.....the guide kept talking and pointing out things as if nothing unusual was happening.....sometimes it was raining so hard.....I couldn't open my eyes.....they were shut by the huge drops flying into my face.

"This is cool," said one of my sons.

"Can you see anything?"

"No, but its funny."

People huddled under awnings and doorways on the street...thought the same thing....because sometimes....they would look up.....and see us folks in the pelting rain in our ponchos.....and they would cheer.....or give us the thumbs ups sign....cause we....well ....looked so ridiculous.

By the end of the two hours we were drenched......totally....and of course the thunderstorm stopped.....long enough for us to get clean dry clothes go out again.....and get wet again.....


But the kids were good troopers and you do what you have to do.....so we walked around....scuttling from awning to awning.....looking into windows and getting a feel for the city.

By late evening our tummies were rumbling.....the tour guide suggested a diner near our hotel...and though I was leery of taking the advice of the guide.....the diner was close by our hotel.....so we walked there....settled ourselves....and then looked up startled as one of the waitresses jumped up to the ledge between the top of the booths.....and started singing.

I mean not just singing....but belting out a tune......and she was GOOD....really good.....and then another waiter started.....and since they were popular songs....my daughter and I sung along...like most of the patrons....except for a few folks like my sons....who were enjoying the theatrics but wouldn't dare bop along or sing....because that would be uncool.

I was pretty impressed....this is the one of the first tourist touristy places....I was really enjoying and having fun in....and the food was good too.....this was novel for the city.

Sunday we were ready to face another day......we watched weather reports on the TV before heading out to prepare ourselves.... the weather was supposed to be improving throughout the day....the boys had to take a train from Penn Station at 3pm out to the Long Island airport so we didn't have much time to spare and I was hoping we wouldn't spend more time in the rain.

Tour guide Mommy started the ambitious whirl wind tour .....Rockefeller Plaza...the NBC shows....St. Patrick's Cathedral....the Apple Store...and then the subway down to Battery Park to hop on the Statue of Liberty tour.

All was going remarkable well....the kids were loving every minute of it.... I was non-stop talking and telling stories....hand me a microphone and I could have entertained a crowd .....

But oh ho....the process for getting to the Statue of Liberty was messy and long....security....scans.....big crowds.....we got on the boat to the island.....and I got nervous....this was taking too long.....and we still had to get back to the hotel to grab the boys luggage.....

The kids were enjoying the view off the boat....when my son pointed out a wall of gray coming at us from the left side.....what?.....in two minutes.....the boat and the bay were encased in a thick massive rainstorm .....up and down we bobbed with the winds and the rain....slowing our travel time even more.

By the time we got to the island.....we realized we couldn't get off and walk around....because we had to get back to the dock....and on our way....it was already past 1pm and we had less than two hours to get luggage and boys to the train station.

The next hour was like a scene from a crazy movie...we ran to the subway after we exited the boat....the machine was not working for tickets....a Chinese guy crammed us in the revolving turntable two at a time....using his card to swipe us through.....if we gave him the fare....(he made a 50% profit on this illegal activity)...we took the wrong subway....because it was Sunday and there was a schedule change some cards marked north were going south....we jumped on to another subway train at the next stop and asked the crowd where the train was going........we somehow got back to the hotel.....grabbed stuff.....hopped into a cab .....ran through the Penn station....trying to figure out what to do..... which way to go .....got the boys tickets.....and made it....with a few minutes to spare....cause the train....thankfully was running 15 minutes late.


As the train pulled out....my daughter and I almost collapsed....

"I NEED A DRINK ," I announced to the crowd of Long Islanders waiting for their trains.

My nerves were shaking and raw.....but she suggested we catch the subway to the Art Museum....and seeing art would calm me down.

Which it did....and although we only had about an hour in the museum....we both found paintings and work we enjoyed and were new to us......when they shooshed us out at closing time.....we treated ourselves.....to a nice cab ride back to the hotel....no walking ...no subways....just door to door service....without thinking.

We ended the day at a wonderful restaurant......with excellent wine and delicious Italian food.....and New Yorkers....all around us....living and talking about their busy lives.

Today we shop in the city....then head back out to Long Island....she will head home in a day....sooner than our original plans.... she has a interview for a promotion at work....and so must get back to Ohio.

I haven't planned my solo days yet....it's been too hectic moving bodies and being the travel guide....once she leaves ...I'll decide how to tie up this extraordinary adventure.
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The Plaza........

The Art Deco work in the Plaza....is gorgeous.....I missed this before....but its a remarkable entrance over a doorway....

It states ..."Wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times..."

No wonder our times are so unstable......this isn't exactly the hallmark of our current government leaders.

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Singing among the crowd.....

We figured they were all wanna-be Broadway stars....but all the singing wait staff were really good....and this place was unexpectedly fun.

A new artisit to love.......

Edouard Vuillard.....early 20th century.....I don't know him....but I liked his pieces....some were so large I couldn't take a pic with my Iphone...this small one made me happy....and fit in the frame.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Clumps of Starfish......

This morning my daughter and I discovered that at low tide....part of our beach was a tide pool....purple red starfish.....crabs....snails....and little fish darted in clear basins of water.

We also found about a dozen starfish stranded on the beach....high above the water line...since some people come by and collect them....we decided to gather them up and place them back in the cool ocean tide pools....given them another chance ....to ....well....be starfish.

End of the Week........

It's almost midnight and I am dog tired......my day started with an early morning walk on the beach with my daughter....included a job interview over the phone at mid day....and it's ending with me trying to stuff two weeks of sea shells...interesting rocks and a few t shirts....gathered here in NY into luggage and bags....which appear to bemutliplying like reckless rabbits in heat.

Tomorrow....Saturday.....we spurce up the house.....go for our last walk on the beach......and drop my hub off at the airport....he's heading for home.

It's startling... to think....that time has gone by so quickly.....he's already returning to our real home and real life. We've had so much fun the last few days....cooking....beach walking....and just being a complete family again ... it's hard to believe.....we start unwinding....this perfect carefree arrangement already.

After I drop Hub off at the airport......I'm heading into the City with the kids for a couple days.....then send them off too....in different directions...one to go home ....two to spend time visiting family in Chicago.....

Hard to believe.....next Friday night it will be my turn to pack up and leave for home.....

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Wednesday, June 11, 2008

The Kids are Here...the Kids are Here.......


I can't tell you how excited I was to see them all get off the plane.....it seems like forever since we were all together.
We hopped in the car ...tossed in duffel bags....and started on our way to our rental house......wait....oops.....what's that.....smoke coming out of our engine!!!!.....really.....an impending radiator blow out....so we turn around ....keep our fingers crossed and smoke on back to the airport.
Of course they didn't have any more mid sized cars....so ....we pulled out of the rental car lot in some type of SUV.....that probably gets 2miles per gallon....and gas ....out here on Montauk Point....is running 5.00 a gallon. Well...it was that or walk....lol
As soon as we arrived we hit the beach......and how fun.....to see the kids running away from cold water waves....looking for shells....and fooling around with each other......and laughing.....that was the best thing.....to here them laughing....
Tomorrow more beaching......more exploring and hiking.....a trip to the light house....and dinner as family again.....how sweet some small simple things are.....
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Monday, June 09, 2008

Out to Sea........

So this is how it’s going to end…..I thought…nibbling on my clam strip.

I ditched tornadoes in Omaha…..Chicago….and the South….only to be swooshed away on a strip of beach on Long Island….How ironic.

I wonder what the folks would say at home.

"Did you hear about Gina and her hub….they got blown away in a lobster roll?"

"What were they doing in a big bun?"

"No no they were in a skimpy fish shack called the Lobster Roll…..and got blown out to sea."

I ate another clam strip (they were too good to leave behind…) and waited for my Dorothy moment.

The wait staff looked pale….they had already battened down the shack….secured the awnings…..locked the windows.

The hostess ….a young pale thing…..maybe 18 years old…..gazed out the doorway saucer-eyed and stood absolutely still……as if somewhere…. in some fish shack manual….it said …..if there’s an impending tornado….stay calm…. gaze out the doorway…..and stand motionless next to your podium.

A few minutes ago…..a woman arrived at the restaurant….dripping wet from the gale outside and announced….there was a tornado reported down the road.

Everyone gasped and looked out the windows…..she sat down….however, and picked up a menu….I guess if you’re at a famous fish shack on the Montauk highway….you might as well place your order…..

it could be….after all…. the ultimate TO GO order.

The lights went out…. came back on….then went out again

The storm….sheets of rain with wind that shook the shack was not letting up. 20 minutes ago we were driving down the highway under overcast skies….where did this monster storm come from?

Since there was no place to run to or hide…..it made sense just to stay put….but as an experienced duck-and-cover-here-comes- a potential-tornado-person…..I knew the thin wooden walls of the old fish shack would probably hold for only a nanosecond or two….if the real thing was bearing down on us.

Still….I asked my husband to sit at the end of the booth seat…..he rolled his eyes….but complied.

“If the place starts to go….we can dive under the table.”

“You’re kidding ...right?.”

“Well it would give us something to do as the place blows away.”

I continued to eat my golden delicious clam strips ...as water dripped from the window next to the table….….leaves and bits of trees flew by outside.

The hostess remained firm at her post.

Gradually….the rain stopped…..and the waiter appeared to remove my plate.


He looked relieved we were still on Terra Firma.

“Would you like dessert?”

“Yes …Please,” I said with true joy....

because you should always celebrate not getting blown out to sea in a flimsy fish shack on your vacation.

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To amuse myself while the storm raged.....I doctored a little sketch the restaurant gave out to kids to color while waiting for their food....

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Sunday, June 08, 2008

On to our second casa.....this time on the other side of Long Island

We're at our second casa......the rental house on Montauk....which is at the tip of the ocean side of Long Island. It's quite a cultural jolt....to move from what feels like a quaint town in New England to the"Hampton Scene" on the other side of the island.

I think we were both disoriented by all the bodies and cars.....and the change in attitude......in Orient.....we were the "outsiders".... tolerated guests......but here....this is a tourist culture and although I know there's an "innie" crowd.....the famed Hampton folks.....its much more of a free for all.

Our house is located in "Digger's Ditch"....which is a small cove of beach....known for it's huge waves......and surfers.

Hit the beach yesterday afternoon.....and I could hear Beach Boy music in my head as I watched all those guys and girls in their wet suits on their boogie boards. I actually thought (for just a second) ....hey I bet I can rent a board here.....but then I realized they have to give me ...arm floaties ...those inflatable little tufts they put on the arms of toddlers..........cause I don't think my natural swimming talents are good enough for the tough waves and surf here.

There's another beach down the road....which I call...."the flat beach".....it goes along for miles.....in either direction.....beautiful....fierce waves.....thundering sounds....and all sand.....in fact....you can hardly find a pebble or a shell on this baby...quite a change from the last beach. We walked for miles on this one last night.

A woman on the beach told me yesterday....that it was 100 degrees in New York City....I couldn't believe it....I thought she was joking....as we had temperatures in the 70's on Orient....but sure enough I googled it...and she was right.....this morning....I opened our balcony door.....and whoa....it's feels like its 90 degrees....and its only 9am....

So all I can say is.....it's time to hit the beach!!!

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Surfers......or boys in skin tight rubber suits

No zoom on the iphone....unfortunatately.....

I'll have to see if I can get a better pics of these boys....(although please note....in all fairness....there are girls in skin tight rubber suits.....and I'm sure under his sunglasses my hub's eyes were glued there)

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Perfect sandy beach

Thursday, June 05, 2008

Sacred Spot along the Sound........



Sometimes in my travels....I come across places that feel sacred.

I'm not sure analytically why a particular spot makes you sense something extraordinary....why it sings to your soul and requests or even demands you consider the bigger picture....but without a doubt these places exist.

In my wanderings up and down this long pebbled beach on "Orient Shoal".....I noticed this outcropping of rocks from a distance. A modest group of gigantic boulders rest on the beach....almost as if someone casually tossed them there to add to the scenery. My scientific husband explains they are the debris left from an ancient glacier with stopped advancing here and created Long Island.

Each rock is different....different markings....different colors. The ice tore them from their original homes in Canada.. Maine....New Hampshire. Some rocks are submerged at high tide...and wear limp brown seaweed during the day....which rejuvenates each night. Other rocks have soft sides of green algae.... some have jagged edges from erosion. Snow white herons and dark black cormorants.....perch on the rocks.

Every day since I have been here....I walk around or sit among them for a while. I feel safe and settled and at peace with them. I smile at their fortitude....no storm....no waves....nothing moves them. They will outlast me and my concerns and my little life by millions of years....it makes everything I am worried about seem very small. I walk away from them each day....and feel like they have realigned something in me during my visit. I like to think they have hidden magnets in them....which straightens out my wayward tendencies. I think I should set up camp and stay with them for a month or two....to gain certainty and fortitude in my thinking.

This evening I walked miles in the opposite direction to visit another grouping of rocks...I thought hey....if there's one sacred spot on this beach....maybe there are others.....it was a tough walk on large wobbly stones.....when I finally reached the rocks....it took me less than a minute to realize......they were duds......they didn't sing.....they had nothing to say....dullards of the boulder and other world....but it did make me appreciate my little spot even more.

Tomorrow is my last day at this house.....and it will be my last day at the sacred spot....I decided to write my wishes and dreams on a little paper tonight and leave it with them in the morning........tuck it in a secret little opening in one of the rocks.....you never know....the weather might be too nice....the sound might be too calm....they may be looking for something to do.....and of course.....it will be nice to know I'll be there too for a little while longer.

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Nature's stairmaster.......



Man....one week of walking on this stuff....and I have wonder woman thighs....I could crack walnuts between my legs....I have so much new muscle mass....lol.......

Live and learn .....though....I now check the tide table each morning.....and discovered at low tide...there's more sand.....and less rocks.......for easier walking.

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Miss Opportunity.......

Rain days can be fun.....when it stops.....its a perfect time to comb the beach and see what the storms have brought up from the deep.

Here I am ready to head out with my lucky Sponge Bob bucket.

Found some beautiful sea glass, some interesting small pieces of driftwood....and a very dead racoon.....I named Ricky. I left him on the beach.

Wednesday, June 04, 2008

Rain Day...................



It's a big rainy windy day here.....the storm started around 4:30 am....the roof and some of the windows are complaining with extra loud sighs and creaks. I can already feel where the cold drafts are in this hundred year old house....and wish I had some of those long stuffed "draft pillows" to put against some of the doors.

I'm on my second cup of coffee but I am not disappointed by the day.....there's small tasks that need to be done.....dishes ...a bit of laundry....a quick run to the grocery store.....and I'm enjoying the books I brought....I decided today felt like the "right day" to crack opening "Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain."

In January I stopped writing....ironically a few weeks afterwards....I received second place in a writing contest judged by African journalists and just before I left....my award arrived....the huge two volume set book called "African Ceremonies." I actually met the authors....two intense women....one from the U.S. ...the other from England...who have spent ten years photographing ceremonies. I didn't meet them at a book signing or in a home...but on a back road in Niger....they had called our guide, Alberto, via satellite phone to let him know they would be in the area.....and we were in the area.....and so the arrangement was to look for each other's caravan. Amazing....our drivers found their drivers .....and we spread a blanket on the sand at our rendezvous point...and talked to these women....listening to how they crept across borders without visas...were chased by government officials.....or members of particular tribes who had qualms about being photographed.... some people believe a part of your spirit is attached to your image.

Anyways......I started doodling last month....( stick figure doodling)....and I brought the drawing book along to advance my doodling. I can't figure out if I'm going to write again or when.....I have brought projects along....but I feel like a wine bottle....corked and capped....and I just don't know if I can open up or even if I want to anymore....it is something I hope to figure out while I'm here.

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A Small Adventure........


There's a ferry service from Orient to Connecticut....so hub and I decided to go to New London, Ct and look around. Gorgeous warm day....but a few minutes on the upper deck of the ferry ...and brrrrr.....I had to duck inside for the rest of the 1.5 hour trip.

New London.......trying to be a "Whale " of a town....and my ten seconds of fame on local tv


New London's online brochure.....is a bit more ambitioius than the town is......this historic city on the Sound....is trying hard to be the hip and cool destination. It's not quite there yet....many of the art galleries listed in the brochure...either went out of business or haven't made it there yet.....and one sign ...for an architectural salvage store said it all..."Coming Soon....(hopefully).

The waterfront is the perfect for becoming one of those "cool" places...old funky brick buildings....water views....the right feel for an artsy spot....but its only about 30% there.....on one street the only store open was a Salvation Army thirft store...which I dragged my reluctant hub into......they had a beautiful gold-rimmed desert/sorbet glass in the window....just one....and for 45 cents....I couldn't leave it behind......I transfered my sea glass into this smaller elegant dish...and it's a small work of art.

Someone had globbed a huge liquidy stream of styrofoam over one building....so it looked like the building "boiled over". It was interesting but just so so....as we walked by....an overly orange tanned....with a perfect white shirt and white teeth....stuck a microphone in my face and asked....."how I liked the art work".....a cameraman...quickly stepped in front of me....I think I said something bland....like "its interesting"....(and truly that's about all you could say about it since it didn't evoke much)......then he asked where I was from.....when I mentioned my town in the south....he asked and "what kind of art do you have there?????"

Ahhh....he was hoping it would be one of those "southern stupid Jeff Foxworthy answers".....and for a second....I actually thought of giving him what he wanted.....saying something like ....."Golly shucks....we're into exhibiting corn cobs and possum tales on sticks...that's what we consider art....".....but instead I looked him in the eyes ( which probably had a few drops of visine in them so they would be perfectly white) and told him we have everything from Chihully glass sculptures to beautiful native wood turned vases.

Damned Yankee (and I can say that cause I am one.)

He asked me something else...and I said ...."Well it does look like the building could use an Alka-Seltzer..." and oh that was funny.....and I went along my way. Since we can't get Conniticut channels here....I don't know if I made it or not onto the early evening news......but if you thought you saw me .....on TV yesterday.....it probably was me....LOL>>>>
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Monday, June 02, 2008

Beach Life.......


This morning, for the second morning in a row.....the sweet chirps of meadowlarks have been my alarm clock at dawn. The house if full of sunlight .....and I slip out of bed to try and make coffee ....quietly.....which is task....since this house is a hundred years old....and many floor boards has something to say when you put your weight on them.

I love this place....the hamlet of Orient....the old houses.....the small scattered farms.....and the ability to see both the Long Island Sound.....and the Bay which is part of the Atlantic Ocean.

I already collected a few real estate magazines for the area.....but owning a home here....would be in the "something to dream" about category....since many of the small historic homes run at least 1 million dollars.

But that didn't stop me from walking around the hamlet....and deciding which one or two I could live in....which garden would be perfect with only a few more flowers or a nip and tuck on an overgrown shrub. One of the historic homes even had an open house on Sunday....priced to sell....at 800K.....it was an odd ..quirky....beautiful old house.....but even I knew that a few of the floorboards felt way too soft (possible joist rot?) and the kitchen was left behind in the 60's......and one bathroom looked like it needed lots of work. Sometimes I watch those stage your home to sell shows on the Home and Garden Channel....and I'm able to pick out suspicious decorating touches. In this house.... a bright new luxurious shower curtain hanging in an out of date bathroom made me suspicious. Pull it aside and uh huh....yes.....the bathtub from hell.

There's lots of wind on this point of land....strong wind....not the kiss of a gentle breeze....so it's interesting to be out and about....walking down the narrow old streets or on the beach. You don't have the pleasure of introspection or getting caught up in your own internal thoughts.....because the wind bats at you....as if to say....think of me think of me....and you do....it's almost like a child tugging on your sleeve for attention. And it's not necessarily a bad thing.....since you feel the sun. ....the smell of water....the constant russle of leaves in thick old trees...and of course the wind....tossing your hair around....making your windbreaker or t-shirt into a sail.

Today we will go into the bigger town of Greenport about 6 miles south of here....to buy groceries....and walk around. I'd like to pop into the library and look at a history book of the area....and there are numerous art galleries along the main drag....which my hub hopes are closed on Mondays...to help me avoid temptation.

I finished one book....from my pile....a book I brought along because it was so small....The Story of My Life....Helen Keller. It's only 75 pages....but I was astonished.

I could not phantom....and still can't.....how a woman who was deaf and blind....and unable to speak well....could acquire the education, sophistication, and communication skills (in writing) which she did. For example...she attended Radcliffe.....and graduated. She studied through people spelling each word into her hand....or reading embossed text books.

Okay...can you imagine someone spelling an entire book into your hands? or touching someone's lips to read what they are saying....at a college level? The woman also mastered French and German....and was fond of German literature. I have all my senses and I can speak "pig" rough French and read enough words to get me down the street and into a coffee shop. Fini. That's it.

Possibilities......we simply limit ourselves and sell ourselves short some times.
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My treasures



My booty from two days of work.....a handful of sea glass....and special shells....called "jingles"....which I hope are magic seeds.....which I'll use later to make wishes.

A sweet dish......



My new found treasures of sea glass and shells....needed something to go into.....walking through the hamlet....we stumbled upon a garage sale....where for the non-haggled price of $1.00.....I bought the perfect sweet dish to hold my dream seeds.