Last night I wasn't feeling well so I settled into my comfy chair...put my feet up....waited for the cat to find the perfect spot to sit next to me... and read several newspapers.
Many papers, including the New York Times, were allowing readers to comment on Gov. Spitzer's situation in NY.
There were a few amusing emails....mostly wondering why the governor, a smart and attractive man, didn't get a mistress...a legal playmate....since in all likelihood she wouldn't have charged $2000.00/hr for her services...although one reader did concede presents to women could add up.
Other people suggested he should have found a lover, based on the assumption that a woman who might have feelings for him....would be happy to be with him....and wouldn't charge him at all...in essence.....a "freebie."
A rare few even sympathized with his choice for a prostitute....assuming he might have chosen this route...to stay emotionally uninvolved with the woman...and therefore "faithful" to his wife.
If you took out the political emails......you were left with a lot of emails...spewing....comments about the man...and his wife.....which were not based on facts.
Unless a person had intimate knowledge of this couple...their marriage.... their sexual life together....you have no idea what factors were involved in this situation....and the spectrum is wide.....ranging anywhere from a sexless marriage to Spitzer just being an arrogant asshole.
So I found it odd....that these strangers....from all over the country could pinpoint the exact problem..."she's frigid.....he's oversexed......she didn't give him enough attention...he's kinky."
Many papers, including the New York Times, were allowing readers to comment on Gov. Spitzer's situation in NY.
There were a few amusing emails....mostly wondering why the governor, a smart and attractive man, didn't get a mistress...a legal playmate....since in all likelihood she wouldn't have charged $2000.00/hr for her services...although one reader did concede presents to women could add up.
Other people suggested he should have found a lover, based on the assumption that a woman who might have feelings for him....would be happy to be with him....and wouldn't charge him at all...in essence.....a "freebie."
A rare few even sympathized with his choice for a prostitute....assuming he might have chosen this route...to stay emotionally uninvolved with the woman...and therefore "faithful" to his wife.
If you took out the political emails......you were left with a lot of emails...spewing....comments about the man...and his wife.....which were not based on facts.
Unless a person had intimate knowledge of this couple...their marriage.... their sexual life together....you have no idea what factors were involved in this situation....and the spectrum is wide.....ranging anywhere from a sexless marriage to Spitzer just being an arrogant asshole.
So I found it odd....that these strangers....from all over the country could pinpoint the exact problem..."she's frigid.....he's oversexed......she didn't give him enough attention...he's kinky."
What did these people do....drink a cup of loose leaf tea....check the residue and declare they knew ...without a doubt.....he was into handcuffs and blindfolds? Even Dr. Laura was on the Today Show blaming the whole event on Spitzer's wife....a woman she's never met.
What's on the surface isn't always a reflection of what's below.
This lesson was burned into me a few years ago....when I attended a writing conference in Maryland. It was a cut-throat conference because of the intensity of the critique sessions....and everyone was grateful to attend a midweek cocktail party for a few hours of relief.
I started talking to a couple from Virginia. He was attending the conference and his wife was staying in a hotel nearby...shopping and visiting relatives. I'm a very visual person...and could not keep my eyes off the woman because she was so drop-dead gorgeous/perfect. Shoulder length blond hair...a stunning soft sleeve-less green wrap dress...sophisticated....tall/thin....killer high heels... obviously smart and articulate. We chatted about a hundred topics and then the woman excused herself to go to the restroom.
When she left, I said to the man....."My god...she's a beautiful woman."
What's on the surface isn't always a reflection of what's below.
This lesson was burned into me a few years ago....when I attended a writing conference in Maryland. It was a cut-throat conference because of the intensity of the critique sessions....and everyone was grateful to attend a midweek cocktail party for a few hours of relief.
I started talking to a couple from Virginia. He was attending the conference and his wife was staying in a hotel nearby...shopping and visiting relatives. I'm a very visual person...and could not keep my eyes off the woman because she was so drop-dead gorgeous/perfect. Shoulder length blond hair...a stunning soft sleeve-less green wrap dress...sophisticated....tall/thin....killer high heels... obviously smart and articulate. We chatted about a hundred topics and then the woman excused herself to go to the restroom.
When she left, I said to the man....."My god...she's a beautiful woman."
He smiled....raised his glass up to me....as if in a toast....and said..."and she's totally self-absorbed....obsessed with her body....and sucks in bed."
My eyes turned into saucers.......the OH NO look....you have told me......a stranger...something wayyyyy too intimate.
I didn't know what to say....I just looked at him....and he looked squarely back into my eyes....and shot a gazillion pounds of personal pain into me....I almost swooned under the weight of it.
Then he blinked....and I blinked....we broke the connection.... and she rejoined us. Her hair perfectly in place.....her lipstick fresh.....they smiled at each other.... the conversation continued.
Even today....if I could show you my soul....I could point to the place where his pain marked me.
I'm not implying Mrs. Spitzer is anything like this woman.....oh no ...not at all.....I only wish to remind folks that most people don't wear their lives on their sleeves.....and to emphatically state we know the intimacies of a man, his life...his family......is not the stuff of true grownups.
I know.....I know........Ann Coulter could make mincemeat of me....lol....compassion is not cool.
My eyes turned into saucers.......the OH NO look....you have told me......a stranger...something wayyyyy too intimate.
I didn't know what to say....I just looked at him....and he looked squarely back into my eyes....and shot a gazillion pounds of personal pain into me....I almost swooned under the weight of it.
Then he blinked....and I blinked....we broke the connection.... and she rejoined us. Her hair perfectly in place.....her lipstick fresh.....they smiled at each other.... the conversation continued.
Even today....if I could show you my soul....I could point to the place where his pain marked me.
I'm not implying Mrs. Spitzer is anything like this woman.....oh no ...not at all.....I only wish to remind folks that most people don't wear their lives on their sleeves.....and to emphatically state we know the intimacies of a man, his life...his family......is not the stuff of true grownups.
I know.....I know........Ann Coulter could make mincemeat of me....lol....compassion is not cool.
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For the record...I do believe he should have resigned. He broke the law...engaged in illegal activities......and he has prosecuted other people for the same activity....it's a no brainer.
